There are a lot of myths around sexual activity, one being that your first time having sex will hurt. Others may include oral stimulation, fingering or handjobs, or anal penetration in their definition. Your definition could also include stimulation or penetration with a sex toy. Regardless of the type of sexual activities you want to try, there are a few general tips or rules you can use to make your first sexual experience more comfortable. Masturbating can help you figure out what feels good during sex, and it can help you feel more familiar with your body. You might find that certain angles or positions are uncomfortable for you while others are pleasurable.

Last Updated: August 1, References Approved. This article was co-authored by Laura Marusinec, MD. She received her M.

Jessica, a year-old who lives in Mississippi, was dating a guy recently when the subject of sexual history came up. Jessica said she immediately felt nervous. She'd had sex before, but because of her religious beliefs, had since been abstaining from sex. Sometimes it feels like it's ok for guys to do whatever, but if a girl says, no I'm not a virgin , we're looked at with more shame.